HOW TO WIN A WOMAN: 13 TIPS THAT WORK - GEOGRAFÍA - 2025

How to seduce a woman? Surely you have ever wondered how you can make that girl you like fall in love with you. If you don't know how to do it, keep reading that these tips will help you achieve it.

The art of seducing has always been a subject of great interest to both men and women throughout history. Many have tried to master this technique to achieve their goals.

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Since ancient times, the human being has tried to discover the magic recipe to conquer another person, a formula that, luckily or unfortunately, does not exist.

In this case, I will focus on how to win a woman. The keys that I present here cannot be handled as an instruction manual to conquer any female. Each woman has her own tastes and personality.

For example, there are very traditional women who like protective and thoughtful people, while there are other more independent women who seek more time to have their own space and who do not overwhelm them.

Therefore, first you must know the personality of that woman well and, in this way, find out how you can surprise her so that she falls into your arms.

Tips for conquering a woman

1-Build an interesting life and have goals

The first thing you have to do before attracting a girl is to be a person of value. Are you trying to achieve something or have you already achieved it? Do you have goals? What skills do you have?

The basic rule is that you have to have a life, not that the girl is your life. If the girl rejects you it should not affect you much, because you already have things in your life that excite you and for which you fight.

Don't try to seduce or conquer the girl by trying to show that you are an interesting person; be an interesting and valuable person.

Do not brag, because it is something that usually does not please, rather it subcommunicates with your lifestyle that you are someone of value. For that you have to really have goals, do activities, read, play sports and other things.

On the other hand, have goals that make you admirable. People without goals in life do not attract and are not attractive.

Things you can do:

• Set goals, such as finding a good job, finishing studies, winning a competition…
• Read for general knowledge.
• Sports practice.
• Travels.
• Learn new skills.
• In general, propose something that makes you excited.

2-Create a social group

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Girls like men / boys who have friends; you will be much more attractive if you have a social group. Don't live for the girl; have a life that makes you interesting, including friends.

Also, if the girl rejects you, it will not affect you as much, since you will have things to do and a group of friends with whom to continue having fun.

3- Be confident and have confidence in yourself

Attraction and love are highly conditioned by chemical elements. However, there are ways to try to be more attractive to the woman in front of you, and who knows if that chemistry that you want so much can emerge after several dates.

The general rule of thumb says that people who are confident are more attractive to those around them.

According to Lowndes (1996) in his book How to make anyone fall in love with you, first impressions are essential for love to emerge. What happens on the first date is always remembered.

In these moments, your non-verbal communication and your conversation, in addition to your presence, is very important. Although in this section, I am going to focus more on the personal than on the physical.

The key for the conversation to flow and not be too nervous or introverted is that you work on your self-esteem and believe in your abilities.

Be confident, but not overconfident either, as forced extraversion or overconfidence can be rude in some cases.

In addition, self-confident people tend to attract positive situations. Almost nobody likes to be with a person who is complaining all day about what is happening to her and about her own personality, because it implies that she does not love herself. And the first thing you have to love yourself is yourself.

To do this, you must know your positive aspects and your weaknesses. Once you know yourself thoroughly and know what your goals are, you will know how to demonstrate the strengths of your personality to those around you, being much more attractive to them, both in the sentimental field and in that of friendship.

In short, it is about showing that you love yourself, but without being narcissistic or believing yourself superior to the person in front of you. You have to act with the girl you want to conquer as an equal. You both must be on the same level for it to be a healthy relationship.

4- Pay attention to what he tells you and also what he doesn't

For that woman to trust you, you must listen actively, that is, showing interest when she speaks, without being in a hurry to tell your own experiences. Be patient, it will be your turn to express yourself with total freedom. On the other hand, paying attention to what she is telling you will allow you to get to know her better.

But, in addition to being attentive during the conversation, you must pay attention to what he is expressing with his body. Body language reflects more than can be said in words, such as "I'm available" or "You can come closer to me."

Non-verbal communication can be subconscious or conscious. The important thing is that you learn to interpret the signals that she sends you and know how to return them. Of course, you must bear in mind that the gestures that I explain below must be taken with caution, as they are not conclusive.

There are reactions from the subconscious that can reveal the attraction that you feel for the other person, such as dilated pupils or flushed cheeks.

Other gestures made with different parts of the body, such as the feet, arms, mouth and eyes, are easier to appreciate. All of them are very important at the level of non-verbal communication.

Feet and arms

For example, if her feet are facing you, she may actually be being attracted to you.

Arms can also manifest many things. If she keeps her arms crossed for too long she is revealing a lack of confidence in you or that she is not entirely comfortable.

Smile

The smile is also a sign that this woman feels good and relaxed with you. It is a way of being close to you. In addition, smiles are contagious, if you smile at her, you can generate a warmer and more relaxed situation.

Eyes

Finally, you have to take into account what the eyes say. The saying goes that "a look is worth a thousand words" and that's right, the way the other person looks at you says a lot about them and how they are feeling. Eye contact tells you if this woman is shy (looks down many times), if she is confident (maintains eye contact) or if she is not paying attention to you (constantly looking away).

You can also use non-verbal communication to your advantage and in a conscious way, for example winking an eye, maintaining eye contact or touching the other person at some point in the conversation lightly, brushing their hand or putting your arm across above. With the latter, you have to be careful and watch that the time is right, as it can be uncomfortable for the girl.

5- Do not look only at their physique but be an observer with their look changes

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Although most women like to bring out the most attractive attributes of their physique, and feel beautiful, they do not like to have the feeling that men only appreciate them for it.

In fact, being overly direct or flattering her can be tiresome and make her feel uncomfortable, causing her to never want to repeat that date again. Of course, you have to be careful where you look, do not stay absorbed looking at her chest while she talks to you.

Focus on other aspects of her personality, such as her conversation, interests, profession, or personal experiences.

This does not mean that you should not be aware of some changes in their appearance, such as a hairstyle, a new haircut, or an elegant dress. Women like men to notice them, so tell her that she is very pretty or surprise her with a romantic phrase at times, it can be very pleasant and make her feel more attracted to you.

6- Use your sense of humor to maintain a relaxed atmosphere

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Carbelo and Jáuregui (2006) affirm that "the sense of humor, as a personality trait, is one of the main strengths of the human being".

The sense of humor, in addition to having numerous scientifically proven health benefits, such as reducing stress or preventing depression, promote social interaction.

Therefore, what better way to use it than on a date or with that girl you like? Almost everyone likes to laugh and have positive feelings and laughter is a good way to achieve this.

In addition, it is scientifically proven that women are more attracted to men who use a sense of humor. Frenchman Nicolás Guéguen carried out a field study in a bar in 2006, showing that there is greater complicity between men and women when she finds it funny.

Of course, you must be careful not to take your list of bad jokes and base your quote on that repertoire. Well, you can end up looking like a "funny guy" or the girl ends up getting bored and decides to leave.

7- Have details with her, but let her have them too if she feels like it

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Women like chivalrous men, but they don't like being bought with money. Although everyone likes to be invited or bought a gift on occasion, there are many ways to be a retailer without money.

Remember special dates for her, like her birthday, an important exam or a job interview and let her know through a call or a message to congratulate her or ask her how she was doing.

Another way to be thoughtful with her is to walk her home or take her somewhere you know she loves, be it a restaurant, a park, or a beach.

If the date is over and you invite her to your house, take care of the decoration. Some candles, some rose petals, a soft smell of incense and a good wine, are usually a safe bet.

As for the "man always has to pay" rule, it is true that it usually happens on most first dates, but it does not mean that all women like it. There are girls who like to invite or pay half. So if she insists, let her invite you too.

These tips have been applied to the man who wants to conquer the woman, but they are totally compatible for those women who also have the need to make a girl fall in love.

8- Take care of your personal appearance and your hygiene

Besides psychology and personality, physical presence is also important. In fact, it plays a very relevant role in the art of seduction. Women tend to like people who take care of themselves and care about their appearance.

Good personal hygiene is proportionally related to greater social acceptance. You have to be especially careful with body odor, as it has been scientifically proven that it influences the degree of attraction that women feel for men.

A study published in 2012 in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior, shows that women prefer the essences of men with high levels of testosterone and cortisol during the menstrual cycle.

Body odor is of great importance in the field of romantic relationships. Other research by Lundström and Jones-Gotman from 2008 points out how the ability of women to identify the smell of the man with whom they are in love increases, rejecting that of other men.

Daily grooming routines, such as showering, washing hands and teeth, are very important to maintain good personal hygiene and make the woman you want to conquer more attractive.

Other options to improve your personal appearance are to play sports or dress appropriately. In addition, it will help you increase your own self-esteem. Taking care of your appearance makes you appear more attractive and more self-confident.

Nor is it that you use your physical appearance to please women exclusively, but that you are the first person that you have to feel good about yourself.

By this I mean, you do not have to dress in a style that is not yours or play sports or compulsively groom yourself. The best is a middle ground. Well, in addition to the fact that you should not change the way you dress or your tastes to impress anyone, there are women who do not like people who are excessively groomed and concerned about their body.

9- Make yourself loved. Show your strengths

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How many times have you thought that you would flirt more if you knew how to do something special? For example, playing an instrument, dancing, singing, or painting.

Surely there is something you know how to do that she has not discovered. Play with that surprise factor and show her where you stand out.

Like I said before, it's about highlighting your strengths over your weaknesses. It is not bad that you talk about yourself, what you do and what interests you, without being conceited. This way you will know if she is also interested in meeting you and you will discover if you have common tastes.

On the other hand, there are personality characteristics that you can also use to make that person show more interest in you. For example, if you are a sensitive person who likes children, animals, or spending time with older people, let them know. Also if you are a person committed to solidarity causes or wanting to make the world a better place to live.

Qualities like intelligence, being a hard-working or kind person also make you appear more attractive. According to Edward Royzman, professor of psychology at the University of Pennsylvania, women prefer less attractive men, physically speaking, if they stand out for other personal characteristics such as intelligence or kindness.

10- Find common ground with her

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One of the key aspects for attraction and love to flow is having things in common with the other person.

John Alex Clark, an expert coach in personal relationships, writes in Psychology Today that we find most attractive people who have personal traits or characteristics that remind us of our social context.

It is not that the two of you have to be the same and have the same tastes, but surely there are things that you have in common and you can do together.

In addition, discovering what she likes and doing it with her will make her feel more comfortable and is a good way to let her know that you are interested in her being comfortable with you.

11- Take into account their decisions and respect their own space

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Respect, along with trust, are two of the main pillars that sustain a relationship. Therefore, if you want to conquer that woman, one of the first things you should do is respect her.

She, like you, has her own life and dreams. That she decides to share part of her time with you does not mean that she does not have other interests and goals outside of the relationship.

Let things flow and don't force her to do anything she doesn't feel like doing. Things will happen when they have to.

For starters, don't judge her by her actions or thoughts. It is free and if you want to know it, you will have to accept it as it is. Don't try to change her, because no one can change another person. If she doesn't fit your tastes or your way of being, she may not be the right person for you to have a relationship with.

On the other hand, she also has her girlfriends and friends and will want to spend time with them. It is advisable not to overwhelm her by texting or calling her during these outings, as she may think that you are a possessive person.

In addition, giving him his own space is a way of showing yourself sure of yourself and making him understand that you are not desperate or in a hurry. In general, we are all more attracted to people who are calm.

Of course, you must be careful not to get confused. Even if you respect her space, let her know that not calling her doesn't mean you're ignoring her.

One way to be present in her life and let her know that you respect and admire her is to help her achieve both her professional and personal goals. Become a critical support for her.

12- Be honest with her

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If there is one quality that women especially value in a person, it is their sincerity. Honesty is the key to starting to build the necessary trust that a relationship requires. As I said in the previous point, this trust is one of the essential pillars for feelings to flourish.

There are several rules for being honest with a person. The most important is not to lie. If you are interested in having a relationship with that woman, be honest with her from the first moment.

Psychology Today magazine lays out five fundamental steps to learning to be honest and build that trust.

1. First you have to be honest with yourself. You must know yourself and know what you really want, do not be influenced by what is happening around you.
2. Your words must correspond to your actions, otherwise you will create an ambiguity that can lead to mistrust.
3. Be honest with what you feel and let them know. It is better to have a conversation, than to say things when we are angry, since we can be cruel.
4. Keep in mind that she can be honest with you too. You must be prepared to listen to what concerns her about herself or your possible relationship.
5. Accept that the other person can see things differently. In this way, you will avoid disappointment.
6. Show yourself as you are

You must not stop living your own life to impress a woman. This is one of the biggest mistakes made in romantic relationships, writes Margaret Paul, an expert on interpersonal relationships at The Huffington Post.

Just as you respect their space, you must respect yours. People with ambitions in life and who stay active tend to be more attractive than those who show no special interest in dedicating themselves to anything.

Go out with your friends, pursue your dreams, do activities that you like and enjoy. This will help you keep your self-esteem high and make you feel more confident about yourself.

Also, the more things you do for yourself, the more experiences and stories you will have to tell her the next time you meet her.

It is important to spend time together, but also to spend it away from each other. According to Margaret Paul, this is one of the keys to maintaining a healthy relationship. It is a way to avoid emotional dependence and transform it into emotional responsibility.

On the other hand, spending your time separately will make you miss each other and even more want to see you on an upcoming date.

13-Have an interesting and exciting date

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When you do get a date with the girl you like, try doing something exciting, like going to an amusement park, a hike, canoeing, or anything else that excites your emotions.

If the girl feels emotions on the date, she will associate them with you and it will be much easier to make her fall in love. Avoid doing something boring, like your typical coffee dates, unless she insists that you prefer it that way.

Themes of interest

Things a man likes about a woman.

How to know if you like a woman.

Topics to talk about with a woman.

Seduction books.

How to know if he is in love with you?

Psychology of women.

How to have an attractive personality.

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