7 THINGS TO DO WHEN FEELING IGNORED (PSYCHOLOGY) - ARTE - 2025

Feeling ignored is one of the worst feelings you can experience. However, that feeling depends on our perspective or thoughts and therefore we can change it.

Actually the opposite of love is not hate. It is indifference. In fact, being ignored can cause an even worse feeling than being rejected as it can lead you to think that you don't matter to others.

Has any of this happened to you recently?

• Your colleagues don't take your ideas into account.
• You invest time in having a coffee / drink with someone and pay more attention to WhatsApp than to you.
• Your boss, friend or partner takes hours to respond to your messages, if they do.
• You are in a hurry to get to a meeting and the other person is not showing up or is very late.
• You send a CV or apply for a job offer and nobody responds to you.

Why do we feel so bad when we are ignored?

When we are treated with indifference, we can tend to think that we do not deserve to be paid attention to. However, that is a sign that we must work on ourselves. Pay attention to your thoughts and behavior: are you asking too much? Are they really ignoring you?

First of all, you should consider these aspects, however sometimes the reality is that being ignored can also depend on the lack of consideration of the other person.

If a company does not return your messages, your partner laughs at the images that they send him by whatsapp while you are together or someone does not show up for a meeting / appointment, perhaps it is the responsibility of the other person.

Solutions

Feeling ignored is something that possibly happens often in our life and to avoid feeling bad about it it is better to change your perspective than to try to change others:

Don't try to control others

We cannot control others, yet we have control over ourselves.

They don't ignore you for your person

When we are ignored or rejected at first, it is not because of us. Do you think that a person who doesn't know you can base their decision to ignore you on your personality?

Don't seek approval from others

One of the worst attitudes you can have if you want to be happy and independent is seeking the approval of others for everything you do. There are always going to be people who agree with what you do and others who don't.

Be independent

It is related to not seeking approval. To be happy you only need yourself. Then, of course, there are the other people with whom you share your happiness, although they are a "complement", you must be happy for yourself.

Being ignored does not mean you have to ignore others

If you do that you would enter a cycle of no return: you ignore, they ignore you and you ignore again. You would also feed your thoughts that "I ignore people because they ignore me."

Therefore, try to pay more attention to others and see what their reactions are. It's not that if someone always ignores you, you pay attention to them.

It's about not making a habit of ignoring people and not ignoring people who don't deserve it.

Communication

If you are meeting a friend for coffee and they pay more attention to their smartphone than to what you say, tell them. If you feel uncomfortable conveying it, use humor.

Learn to say no

In many cases it is usually ignored to avoid having to say "no" and face an uncomfortable situation. However, ignoring will make the other person feel even worse than a no.

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