SOCIAL REJECTION: WHAT IT IS AND HOW TO OVERCOME IT - ARTE - 2025

The social rejection is when a group of people do not accept the physical characteristics, cultural personality or someone else, there may be (physical or psychological abuse) active passive violence (ignore) or.

Worrying too much about what others will think or accept you can be very limiting in your life. You may do what others do even if you don't want to, or you don't dare to do what you really want.

Therefore, overcoming the fear of social rejection is important if you want to have a good quality of life or achieve your goals. Also, you will feel completely liberated, you will not be behaving taking into account the opinions of others.

In this article I will comment on a series of aspects to take into account to overcome that fear. If you turn them into habits you will have become a free person.

What to do when there is rejection?

If the rejection meets the characteristics of bullying, it is necessary to report it to those responsible for the school. If measures are not taken by those responsible, it is better to leave the school / institute and find another that does not tolerate it.

If the rejection occurs at work, it is also necessary to report it to those responsible. You can also report it to the State authorities. In some cases, if no improvements are seen, it is also possible to leave the job and go to a company with a good work environment.

If the rejection is ignoring and the rejecting people are not showing violence, then nothing can be done. Each group or person is entitled to interact with whoever they want, no one can be forced to interact with us. In these cases it is better to find another group of friends who have similar tastes.

In any case, the rejected person is not at fault that the others reject them. A healthy group made up of sociable, educated, and kind people tends to be respectful of other people.

How to lose the fear of rejection?

Change the meaning of rejection

Characters like JK Rowling or Walt Disney were also rejected many times.

However, they did not stop persevering and in the end they achieved their dreams.

What if you stop thinking of rejection as a bad thing?

Start thinking that if they reject you, you are doing something for your life:

• You're getting closer to getting what you want
• You have done something different
• You have tried to achieve what you want

What's more, use rejections as opportunities to learn and improve:

• If you are rejected in a job interview, learn from mistakes
• If the person you like rejects you, learn what you did wrong
• If a customer rejects you, learn how to serve better

Look for rejection

In Psychology, habituation is the psychological phenomenon by which the response decreases after the stimulus is shown numerous times.

In this case the stimulus is to expose yourself to rejection and the response to feel bad or feel rejected.

The more they reject you, the less it will affect you.

You may have a greater tendency than other people to feel bad after being rejected.

Then you will have to work it more.

On the other hand, at first you may feel a greater emotional drain or energy drain, although it is normal because you will be making an effort to change your behavior trend.

Don't seek approval

Stop seeking approval from others for everything you do and for your opinions.

Act without thinking about whether you will be approved or not. In fact, the less you seek approval, the more they will approve you.

In any case, live in such a way that you only seek to be accepted by yourself.

You cannot have a good quality of life if you live to please others.

Be aware of what you think

If you think that you are rejected for some personal defect, your self-esteem will tend to decline (if that personal defect affects you).

However, most rejections are not based on something personal, rather they are due to established social rules or ego defenses:

• If you do something that is outside the social rules, even if you do not break any law, there will be many who reject you
• If any person or group envies you, they will also tend to reject you.

Think that rejection is not personal, but a behavioral trend. Don't take it personally.

Leave the burden of rejection on others, not on yourself.

Look at the rejection with humor

No matter in the situation you are, you can always look with the glasses of humor.

This will make the rejection not affect you at all.

If you talk to someone and they reject you, say something funny, laugh at their inability to socialize or at the situation itself.

If you give a speech and are whistled, laugh for having dared.

Build your self esteem

If you practice the above, you will overcome the fear of being rejected little by little and in the end it will not scare you at all.

However, there are rejections that it is normal to hurt; those of loved ones.

In these cases, it is normal for you to feel bad, although if you have high self-esteem it will not affect you as much.

If your self-esteem is healthy, you will feel the rejection of someone you love like a bump, although it will not affect your mood too much and you will move on.

Think it's not the end of the world

When you feel afraid of being rejected, you tend to think that if you are rejected it will be the end:

• What if they reject me?
• What if they don't like me?
• What if they don't like me?

In either case nothing happens. Life goes on.

The next time the fear of being rejected paralyzes you think: what's the worst that could happen?

Forget perfection and accept mistakes

Sometimes they may rightly reject you because you did something wrong. In that case, you don't have to feel bad or have a bad opinion of yourself either.

The reality is that sometimes you are going to be wrong, it is impossible to always do everything right or always be right.

When you make a mistake or do something wrong, just accept it and learn from it next time. You need to overcome perfectionism.

Is it possible not to be rejected?

The first reason to overcome the fear of rejection is that someone will always reject you, whatever you do.

If you do something, there will be people who will criticize you. If you do nothing there will also be others who will criticize you.

Unfortunately there are toxic people who are dedicated to criticizing and rejecting without a real reason. They do it because of the way they are.

Think of any famous person who has stood out in life:

• Presidents of state are criticized by the opposition and by the population
• Top soccer players like Messi or Ronaldo are loved by many and hated by others

If you try something outside of the social establishment you will be rejected

Think of scientists like Darwin, Einstein, or Galileo.

They themselves and their theories were rejected when they proposed them, although they were later shown to be true.

If you don't want to be a sheep, you will have to be willing to be rejected.

Otherwise, you will have to settle for being part of the crowd.

In my opinion, being rejected is a good thing. As long as you don't disrespect or break the laws.

If they reject you, it means that you are acting.

The only way not to be criticized is to stay at home, without a single person in the world knowing you. Then you will not be criticized.

If you stand out you will be criticized

If you stand out in something you will be criticized and you will have to get used to it.

When someone does something better than most or is doing better, they are often criticized. The human being is a social being, he tends to look at others and talk about others.

Think about these cases:

• The professional who is promoted and is criticized by his peers
• The boy / girl who succeeds and is rejected by his group of friends

And what do you do to overcome the fear of rejection?

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