I leave you the best phrases of Anthony de Mello (1931-1987), Jesuit priest, spiritual teacher and Indian speaker. His most outstanding works are Wake up !, The song of the bird or The spring.
You may also be interested in these spiritual phrases or these about karma.
-You see people and things not as they are, but as you are.
-Wisdom tends to grow in proportion to the awareness of one's own ignorance.
-Happiness cannot depend on events. It is your reaction to events that makes you suffer.
-Living freely, being the owner of oneself, is not letting yourself be carried away by any person or situation.
-There are two ways to wash dishes: one is to wash them to clean them, the other is to wash them to wash them.
-The great tragedy of life is not in how much we suffer, but in how much we lose. Human beings are born sleeping, live sleeping and die sleeping.
-People who want a cure, as long as it is painless, are like those who are in favor of progress, as long as it is without change.
-Perfect love is molded out of fear. Where there is love, there are no demands, there are no expectations, there is no dependency. I do not demand that you make me happy; my unhappiness does not reside in you. If you left me, I would not feel sorry for myself; I greatly enjoy your company, but I do not cling to it.
-When you see that you are not as wise today as you thought yesterday, you are wiser today.
-He who wants to be constant in happiness must change frequently.
-Lighting is: absolute cooperation with the inevitable.
-Thought is a screen, not a mirror: that is why you live in an envelope of thought, on the fringes of reality.
-These things will destroy the human race: politics without principles, progress without compassion, wealth without work, learning without silence, religion without recklessness and worship without conscience.
-I am not afraid of losing you, because you are not an object of my property or of someone else. I love you as you are; without attachment, without fear, without conditions, without selfishness, without trying to absorb you. I love you freely because I love your freedom, just like mine.
-There is only one cause of unhappiness: the false beliefs that you have in your head, beliefs so widespread that you cannot question it.
-Don't ask the world to change, change yourself first.
-If you find me charming, it means that right now you are in a good mood, nothing more.
-If what you said was true, where was the need to scream?
-You have to understand that the shortest distance between the truth and a human being is a story.
-People mistakenly assume that their thoughts are created by their heads; in fact they are formed by your heart, which first dictates the conclusion, then the head provides the reasoning that will defend it.
-When you are guilty, you do not hate your sins, but yourself.
-The greatest learning of age lies in accepting life exactly as it comes to us.
-The day you change, all people will change for you, and your present will change. Then you will live in a world of love.
-Thought can organize the world so well that you are no longer able to see it.
-It is not falling that makes you sink, it is staying there.
-Don't speak until you can't improve the silence.
-To be awake is to accept everything, not as law, not as sacrifice, not as effort, but for enlightenment.
-I wish I became a teacher of truth.
-When you get rid of your fear of failure, of your tensions of succeeding, you can be yourself.
-Any time you are with someone or thinking of someone, you must say to yourself: I am dying and this person is also dying, trying to experience the truth of the words you say. If everyone agrees to practice this, bitterness will be extinguished, harmony will emerge.
-Sinners often tell the truth. And the saints have led people astray. Examine what is said, not who says it.
-If you have problems, you are asleep. Life is not problematic. It is the self (the human mind) that creates the problems.
-Most people have been so brainwashed that they don't even realize how unhappy they are: like the man who dreams and has no idea what he is dreaming about.
-There is not a single moment in your life in which you do not have what you need to be happy. The reason you are unhappy is because you keep thinking about what you don't have, instead of thinking about what you have right now.
-You are happy here and now; but you don't know it, because your false beliefs and your distorted way of perceiving things have filled you with fears, worries, ties, conflicts, guilt, and a series of games that you have been programming.
-If you observe how you are made and how you work, you will discover that there is a program in your mind, a whole series of assumptions about how the world should be, how you should be yourself and what you should want.
-All you have to do is open your eyes and see that, in fact, you do not need at all what you are so attached to.
-The person responsible for your anger is you, because even if the other has caused the conflict, the attachment and not the conflict is what makes you suffer
-Fear is only removed by looking for the origin of fear. The one who behaves well based on fear is that he has been domesticated, but the source of his problems has not changed: he is asleep.
-When you are too far from nature, your spirit dries up and dies, because it has been violently separated from its roots.
-The establishment of relationships is only possible between conscious people. Unconscious people cannot share love.
-You must discover what it is that you do, not because of the usefulness it brings you, but because you want to do it.
-The most important question in the world, the basis of every mature act, is: Who am I? Because, without knowing yourself, you cannot even know God. Knowing yourself is essential.
-Approval, success, praise, appreciation, are the drugs with which society has made us drug addicts, and by not having them always, the suffering is terrible
-To receive the revelation of writing you have to approach it; To grasp the revelation of silence, you must first achieve silence.
-If your prayer remains for too long in the head and does not pass to the heart, it will become arid and it will become something tedious and discouraging.
-You must learn to leave the field of thought and speech and migrate to the realms of feelings, sensations, love and intuition.
-There is only one need: that need is to love. When someone discovers that, it is transformed.
-The bad thing is that most people equate happiness with achieving the object of their attachment, and do not want to know that happiness is precisely in the absence of attachments, and in not being subject to the power of any person or thing.
-All the brilliance of the sunrise seen from the mountain, is enclosed in an exercise as monotonous as it is to take into account for hours and days without end the sensations of your body.
-Selfishness is demanding that the other do what you want. Letting everyone do what they want is love. In love there can be no demands or blackmail.
-Only in freedom you love. When you love life, reality, with all your might, you love people much more freely.
-Experience reality, go to your senses. That will bring you into the now. That will bring you to the experience. It is in the now that God is found.
-It is fear that makes us want to grasp happiness with our hands, and it does not allow itself to be grasped. She is. We only discover this by observing, wide awake, seeing when fears move us and when our motivations are real. If we cling to desires, it is a sign of attachment.
-Look inside yourself, understand that there is a generous kingdom of self-sufficient happiness. You had not found it before within yourself, because your attention was directed towards the things you believe in, or towards your illusions regarding the world.
-The fear of the future or the hope in the future is the same, they are projections of the past. Without projection there is no future, as there is no such thing as what does not enter reality.