HOW TO HAVE AN ATTRACTIVE PERSONALITY WITH 10 HABITS - ARTE - 2025

In society it is often said that it is important to have personality or character, that one people have more than others and other sayings. However, there is something that they miss due to lack of knowledge; actually everyone has a personality.

You may be more introverted, more outgoing, less indecisive, or more determined, but everyone has one. You cannot "have no personality," actually that's wrong. What if you can is to be determined or confident.

In this sense, if you want to "have a personality", you mean that you want to improve your social skills, improve your leadership, improve your decision-making skills, improve your self-esteem or not be influenced by others.

Other traits that are also often included are courage, the capacity for effort, taking risks, sacrifice and perseverance. All of them can be worked on and we all have some more developed than others.

Before starting with the 10 habits that I think you are looking to develop traits that are considered more attractive, I ask you to keep in mind the following: everyone is going to agree on some things and disagree on others. That is, whatever you are, there will always be people who criticize you, so do not seek to change for others.

To avoid being criticized; Do not do anything, do not say anything, do not be anything.-Aristotle.

It seeks to change for you, to improve your quality of life and acquire ways of behaving and thinking that allow you to achieve your goals.

How to have a personality that is attractive?

1-Be determined

In reality, many of the characteristics that people desire in this society are those of the charismatic leader. They are people that we say "have personality" (although you should already know that we all have it).

One of those personality traits is being decisive, that is, making decisions without taking too much time or making excuses. Of course, when a decision is important, you need to take your time and see the pros and cons.

However, these determined people act in situations that others consider risky and that in reality they are not. Therefore, if you act decisively in these situations, you will reap the greatest benefits and the only risk will be to be criticized, which you can only avoid if you do nothing (and there are probably going to be people who also criticize you for not having acted).

Examples: you go out as a volunteer in class, you are involved in your work team, you decide to go abroad, you go out to dance with whoever you like.

2-Set an example

Setting an example is another of the typical behaviors of charismatic leaders and in general of all types of leaders.

It is about you acting or doing things that others do not dare or should do. And something very important is to do them because you want to and because you feel like it, not because you want others to think well of you, because if not, you will do it unwillingly and it will not do any good.

Examples: you go to an NGO, you help someone who has fallen, you volunteer to help your boss / teacher…

3-Identify and overcome your fears

Both to be decisive and to set an example, you are going to have anxiety or fear. It is something normal, but it is necessary to overcome.

It is not about trying to eliminate fear, but about perceiving it and still acting. It is about that at a given moment you identify that anxiety / fear is preventing you from acting. After that, force yourself to act, even if it is something unimportant.

Examples: public speaking is a fear that many people usually have, me too. To overcome it, I was forcing myself to participate in classes, workshops, courses and even company presentations. In no time, I went from making small participations to presenting often.

4-Do not seek approval

Seeking approval is one of the worst habits you can have that most people have.

It's hard to always remember, and sometimes we behave to please others, even people we don't even care about. After all, we are social beings and we need others to live.

But there is a very real paradox here; when you stop trying to please is when you like the most Only one condition has to be met; Do not disrespect.

You can live your way and do what you want, you don't have to follow others or do what others say, as long as you don't disrespect.

I even recommend that you propose not to fit in, not to follow the herd. That is having character.

5-Be autonomous

One of the most attractive characteristics in a person is autonomy.

It is actually related to the previous ones. If you are autonomous, it will cost you less to make decisions alone, you will not want to please others and you will have more self-esteem, since you will be able to identify and overcome your fears on your own.

Being autonomous is not going to buy bread alone, it is learning to live happily yourself, learning to make decisions yourself and being able to solve your own problems.

6-love yourself

If you don't love yourself, you subcommunicate it to others and they will value you less.

It is therefore very important that you learn to love yourself. And this in turn will enhance all the previous habits, since you will see yourself with the right to do them.

Moreover, you will not wait for someone else to act, but you will tell yourself that you deserve better things and that you have the right to act and find them.

Learn first to love and value yourself, do not expect others to do it and paradoxically, they will start to do it.

7-Learn to see yourself in a positive way

Something that used to happen to me is that depending on the clothes I put on I felt one way or another. If I put on more "fancy" or "cool" clothes, I felt more valued. It has probably happened to you too.

But in reality, and logically, clothing has no real power. It is only psychological and social. It's how you look in clothes that really matters. And why are we going to act with one clothing in one way and with another in another? Isn't it very superficial?

One thing that is clear to me is that how you see yourself is what will most influence how you act.

If you see yourself as a person of value, who can contribute to others, confident, determined, with a future, etc., you will act in such a way.

If you see yourself as a failure, insecure, and indecisive, you will act like this.

8-take a chance

Earlier, I mentioned the importance of acting decisively in "apparent risk" situations.

But acting at a much deeper level, which in reality, if it involves some risk, is already something else. In reality, all the people who reach high or who are considered of value tend to take risks.

A footballer took a risk at the time because he decided to train hard instead of studying "and playing it safe." An influential businessman is not looking for a job that gives him security. A politician, like Nelson Mandela, who makes a big change risks years in jail.

Some examples are: drinking alcohol because "it's normal", wearing a tie even if you don't like it, watching football because others see it, not signing up for painting classes because your friends don't…

9-Break with the conventions

Probably, only with this you will be able to stand out, although, I repeat, do not do it for others.

For me, this is one of the most unpleasant and least attractive elements that you can have. That is, do what others do, follow others without thinking, accept rules that actually hurt us, do what others do even if you want to do something else.

But you don't have to act on these scales. You can also travel, undertake, make your dreams come true…

I don't know whose it is, although I recently heard a phrase that said "remember that Nazism was accepted in its time." It is an extreme example, although these are the best to understand.

10-Do things that others do not

If you are looking for different results, do not always do the same.-Albert Einstein.

It is related to the above, although I would like to talk about it specifically because it is what is going to cost you the most if you really put your mind to it.

A true demonstration of character and that you are not influenced by others is doing things that others do not. And not just raising your hand, going out to speak in public, helping someone, etc.

Rather, lead a life that others will find strange but that will have very positive consequences in your life.

Of course, this does not mean that you are going to be the typical mad scientist (that if you feel that way about me, go ahead). You can have an attractive personality, be sociable, flirt, and succeed doing things that others would never do and probably never will.

Examples: travel alone, have completely different schedules, eat different foods, sign up for a strange course that catches your attention, don't work when others do, work when others don't…

And what do you do to have a more attractive personality?

Themes of interest

How to seduce a woman.

Things a man likes about a woman.

How to know if you like a woman.

Topics to talk about with a woman.

Seduction books.

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Psychology of women.