HOW TO BE MORE PATIENT: 7 TIPS THAT WORK - ARTE - 2025

Learning to have more patience is important to obtain positive results in life, to have physical and mental well-being and even good interpersonal relationships. The world we live in and the society we are born into is constantly on the move, waiting for nothing or anyone.

This is why sometimes, in order to keep pace with society, we need to obtain what we expect as quickly as possible. And this, in addition to creating anxiety, is not something that helps us, since it makes us impatient, the wait being much harder and longer than it really is.

They say that having patience is having great virtue; And it is that surely on many occasions, you have wanted to have a little more calm to know how to face the situation in a more bearable way.

What is patience?

Patience is the ability to calmly await the arrival of desired rewards and goals. The word patience derives from the Latin word “patientia”.

By the time Latin was part of our language, the word referred to the ability of an individual to withstand a certain situation without nerves being present or losing calm. So we can say that patience is a quality that helps us not to enter an altered state.

In the previous definition, perhaps one of the key words would be to "bear", since when the individual gets tired of enduring a certain situation is when patience begins to wane and we feel that we cannot give in more calmly to something or someone.

Patience, as you well know, has a very good relationship (as well as direct) with peace and calm. In addition, a positive attitude and a vision contrary to suffering from uncertainty is also usually involved. A philosophy that would encompass the phrase "what has to be, will be and if it isn't, it shouldn't be."

It is not about being passive, but about trying to take responsibility for what we can really control.

People who are not usually patient tend to suffer from anxiety and intransigence. They want everything immediately and without having to wait for it. Also add that they usually do not make an effort to get things, because sometimes, patience is also linked to effort, but like everything else, effort pays off in time and not when we want. Again it is good to refer to the end of the control.

Is being patient being passive?

Absolutely. The answer is a resounding no.

Being patient should not be confused with being passive (or in more colloquial jargon, being a "goofball"). People who drink and have a passive attitude, tend to act irresponsibly in life, with a lack of commitment. Having a passive attitude means not being responsible for anything because I don't care about everything.

However, being patient does not imply adopting a passive stance towards life. Maybe if it is related to learning to flow with the events that we live, but always adopting a responsible stance towards what we can do in that event.

In addition, patience not only implies waiting without getting upset, but giving each thing its time, and having enough strength to strive to achieve a goal without giving up.

A good example can be the academic subject. When we train in addition to being responsible and having a good attitude, it is necessary to be persistent to establish long-term knowledge.

Is a patient person born or made?

It is true that our psychic nature and the personality traits that we are born with can help us to be more or less patient. In some people there may be an innate tendency to be more tolerant and patient than others.

But people are not only what we are born with, but we are made up of each and every one of the experiences that occur and nurture us throughout life.

If you are not a patient person and you are reading this article in the hope of finding a remedy for your nervousness caused by waiting; You're in luck because I'll tell you that patience can develop.

Patience can be understood as an attitude, which can be adopted little by little in life. It is enough with wanting to develop and enhance it so that we have more patience than we normally have.

As I already mentioned at the beginning of the publication, I am going to give you some tips so that you can develop your patience, and benefit from knowing how to wait without getting upset or giving up.

Tips to develop your patience

With these tips, applying them little by little, you can develop your patience. Remember that like everything in life, this takes a while; even more so if you never tried to be more patient. The processes and changes need constancy and time to achieve the goals that are proposed.

1- Understand that you cannot control everything

You must understand that you have no power to change situations or people. Trying to control what we cannot influence can be very frustrating.

It is good that instead of wasting energy trying to control and change things, you use it to accept that you cannot take responsibility for what is beyond your reach.

There are situations in life in which there is no choice and no task but to wait. So ask yourself if it is really worth the effort to want to change the situation even knowing that this is not possible.

It would also be recommended that you become aware of what it is that really makes you impatient. Something like giving an answer to the question: "Why can't you wait?"

2- Keep in mind that each process is made up of threads

You must be aware that each process takes time and that each process has some necessary steps so that everything goes correctly. If you try to skip a few steps, you run the risk that the result is not as good as you hoped or needed.

There are even situations where it is impossible to jump from one step to another without going through the intermediate steps.

Relax and take your time for each step. It is true that sometimes doing things in a segmented way from the outside gives us a feeling that it will take us a long time, but believe me if I tell you that many times the process will be shorter than you imagined.

In addition, being busy will make you clear a bit before the feeling of impatience and will make time (under your feeling) go faster.

Einstein already said it: "nothing is absolute and everything is relative".

3- Analyze other previous situations in which you had to remain calm and be patient

This advice can help you assess, based on other experiences, what position and attitude to take when faced with a current experience.

If you were patient in previous experiences, you can obtain relevant information on how to deal with a situation that occurs in the present.

Based on the results obtained from that old situation, we can find clues that tell us how to do things in a new situation.

4- A positive attitude can help you achieve your goals

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When we have a good attitude towards life, situations are seen differently. If we worry and think that everything is going to go wrong, patience may not be on our side.

We must trust that if we do the best we can, the probability of getting what we need or long for is greater than if we despair and have a negative outlook on life.

In addition, when we adopt a positive attitude, this helps us to have a less catastrophic view of the setbacks that may appear.

On the other hand, remember that a positive attitude should be a premise not to give up, so if you don't get the results you expected, don't be discouraged, you can try again.

5- Allow yourself to give yourself time

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It will be curious to know that most of the time the person with whom we are most impatient is with ourselves. Give yourself time to get things done and learn from experiences.

Taking an uncompromising and disrespectful stance or forcing yourself to do things that don't come naturally will not only not help you be patient, but it will damage your self-esteem.

Each thing requires its time, just as each person needs to go through a certain process at their own pace. And you are no exception.

It is good that in this advice you try to apply the art of knowing how to listen and understand yourself. Allow yourself to feel the emotions you want, but remember that you can guide them to help you constructively with what you want to achieve.

6- Practice meditation and learn to breathe better

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It is a good way to disconnect for a while from the world we live in, and connect with ourselves. In addition, the relaxation and peace that you will feel during meditation can help you cope with those situations that cause you stress.

Apart from practicing meditation and relaxation, you can keep yourself busy with other tasks that are not directly related to what you are waiting for.

This will cause you to get a little distracted and not exhaust yourself by spending all your time focusing your attention on what you are worried about or need to achieve.